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New Zealander of the Year

Lecretia 30

I woke to the news today that the New Zealand Herald has named Lecretia their New Zealander of the Year. It’s a surprise, given the many amazing achievements by New Zealanders this year, and especially given that Lecretia’s efforts, though supported by a majority, were very controversial.

Naturally Lecretia’s family and I are incredibly proud of Lecretia, and though none of us have any regrets about what she did, having this recognition of Lecretia’s very personal campaign is a comfort in the face of our great loss.

Christmas is going to be really difficult. For me and Lecretia’s family it is our first without her. Twelve months ago she was giving us direction on Christmas preparations, even as ill as she was: planning the menu, making sure the shopping was done, providing quality control on everything that came out of the kitchen. Christmas was Lecretia’s favourite time of year and she was very much looking forward to this one. Her nephew, whom she adored, is having his fifth Christmas and she was excited about seeing him open his presents. Her other nephew, whom she loved also, was yet to spend a Christmas with her.

Though Shirley, Lecretia’s mum, initially thought she might go a little less over the top this time around, Larry, her dad, has insisted that they don’t let standards slip. So there’ll be plenty of cooking and decorating to do, with pavlova, cheesecake, christmas ham, trifle and lots more besides.

As her husband, I find myself in a quandary. Do I spend Christmas with Lecretia’s parents and siblings, as I have done for most of the last twelve years, or do I spend it with my family, who have barely seen me since the funeral? I’m still working through that decision, but I feel a strange mix of wanting to be in three places at once while at the same time heading back overseas to lay low in a Mexican cantina on the Oaxaca coast so I can skip the whole event. Though I will always be part of Lecretia’s family, her death has catalysed a gentle reconfiguration of familial relationships that is yet to come completely to rest.

There is also the very exciting news that I’ve just this week I’ve signed a deal with Text Publishing, a highly awarded Australasian publisher, to write a book about Lecretia, which will be released some time later next year. I am very enthusiastic about the opportunity to tell more of Lecretia’s story, to share more about who she was, and to take people behind the scenes of Lecretia’s legal battle and her relationship with the media and her opponents, a fascinating side of the story with a few revelations that people are yet to hear much about. But tight deadlines mean that as much as I might want to avoid thinking about Lecretia and to try and contemplate a future without her, I’m obliged to pore over old emails and photographs and diary entries to reconstruct as much as I can of the past.

It has been a big year. Lecretia worked under the radar and with humility for her entire life but at the very peak of her illness she threw everything she had into a spectacular final act. In doing so she changed the course of my life, the lives of her family and potentially the lives of many New Zealanders for the better. And today she was recognised for that with an honour given to very few and I couldn’t be prouder of her.

But would we trade all that to spend just one more Christmas with her, provided it caused no harm or pain to her?

Absolutely we would. Without a moment’s hesitation. All of that and more.


If you’re interested in hearing more about the book’s progress, please follow Lecretia’s Choice on Twitter or like Lecretia’s Facebook page. When there are updates, including publication dates and availability, I’ll post them there.

Lastly, I need to make a personal plea on behalf of Lecretia. The public submission deadline for the Health Select Committee review of assisted dying is barely six weeks away, with submissions closing on the 1 February next year. Please make a submission. Even a short one will do.

You and the people you share this with have the power to dictate how Lecretia’s book will end. I hope I am writing a story of triumph and not a tragedy. Your submission will make a difference. You can visit this page for more information. Thank you.

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  1. Well done I’m happy for you, Lecretia and your families. A wonderful person was chosen as New Zealander of the year and I second that.

    Rev Hone

  2. Bravo Matt, Lecretia’s award truly-deserved. Voluntary euthanasia supporters are urged to use the link in your article to make their submission to the Health Select Committee so Lecretia’s brave efforts can be finally recognised.

  3. There is no one more fitting to win this award.
    However you spend this Christmas season, may your heart be filled with love.
    Merry Christmas, Matt xox

  4. Lecretia… your passing was not your final chapter. We still have edits to do. All of us. Our submissions will speak your name and fulfil your wish. Tauranga wahine who knew you back then – lets do this! R.I.P old friend x.

  5. Have a wonderful Christmas in her memory! An amazing woman so worthy of this award. I wish you and your respective families a Christmas Lecretia would be proud of and all the very best wrting Lecretia’s story x

  6. I imagine that if I were dying of cancer for example, and morphine wasn’t effective for me (this is true), I would be relieved to know that I had an end of life choice that my Doctor and I could use if necessary. Lecretia initiated the debate. Now it is our job to do the best we can to see that there is a law change. If we miss the chance in 2016, it may be many years before we get the chance again. How many people will continue to die in discomfort and anxiousness if we do not make a real effort to change the law.

  7. It is tremendous that Lecretia has been given this award. It is a great shame that she wasn’t awarded what she had asked for in court. Worst of all is the fact that Lecretia had a terminal diagnosis and went through all that she did.
    It is extremely important that what she started continues. It is only fitting we do so as a mark of respect for Lecretia who, I understand, would have preferred to live a full life without being famous.