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Lecretia Seales, 1973-2015

Lecretia SealesLecretia passed away this morning at 12:35am from natural causes. I am unable to express my feelings right now. A few weeks ago, Sir Geoffrey Palmer, 33rd Prime Minister of New Zealand and legendary law reformer, sent me this tribute he wrote for Lecretia. I had been saving it for the right time. This might be it.

I have known Lecretia for many years from the time she first came to work at Chen & Palmer after working as a lawyer in the UK. She was by then a seasoned lawyer having cut her teeth at Kensington Swan before taking her OE. I am not an easy person to work with, as I am impatient and demanding. I soon found that Lecretia was incredibly industrious and not to put to fine a point on it, a workaholic. I found her easy to work with and I came to trust her accuracy, her judgment, and her discretion. She is my kind of public lawyer.

Later when I went to the Law Commission she applied for a job there and was top of the field and selected. She made a wonderful contribution at the Commission and worked directly to me on several important projects including alcohol and war pensions both of which reached the statute books. Her terrier like qualities in running down the meaning of words in old statutes was awe inspiring. I recall particularly her work on section 17 of the War Pensions Act 1954. I did not believe it was possible to say what that provision meant, but after three weeks Lecretia figured it out. All the administrative law work on the alcohol project was hers.

Lecretia became not only my professional colleague but also my friend. I recall Matt and Lecretia visited us in Nelson and said they were going to get married. What a wonderful couple. A little much wine was drunk that night. Lecretia is an incredibly private person. She never sought the spotlight. And she is extraordinarily taciturn. But deep down there is a person of great compassion, empathy and judgment. Lecretia has got to be one of finest human beings I have ever met. When her sickness struck she bore it with a fortitude and steadfastness that was amazing. Her idea to turn her experience into a law reform project was typical of her. What a brilliant idea. She always thinks of others first. She never complains. I salute her.

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  1. Dearest Matt. Thinking of you at this incredibly difficult time. I never met Lecretia but by the sounds of things you were absolutely blessed to have such a fine and talented woman share your life, albeit for such a short time. Much love, Kate. X

  2. There are no words to offer at a time like this that can make any difference to how you feel. Ave to a woman who was loved as every woman wishes to be, and may she truly rest in peace. I hope you Matt, find solace in knowing that you held her safe, and that she was never alone, and that she knew so well the fierceness of your love for her. Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us, and being brave enough to face this situation while fighting for others who may find their way there as well.

  3. Thinking of you all…..Matt and the Seales family in Tga. What an outstanding talented young woman taken so young. Fighting this battle and wanting change just shows her incredible passion for Law. You are now at rest Lecretia no more pain and suffering. Love to you all xx

  4. Dear Matt and Lecretia family, Sad news to wake to this morning, I did not know this amazing lady but felt she was my friend. Incredibly sad loss for you all. Heaven now has another beautiful Angel to look down on you all and keep you safe. Love and Light. Sleep well little one.

  5. Matt I’m so sorry to hear that Lecretia has passed. I never met her but your journey has really moved me. What an inspiring and gutsy woman. My thoughts are with you.

  6. Thinking of Lecretia’s family and loved ones from London. How incredibly brave to share your story at this most indescribably difficult of times. Sorry for your loss doesn’t begin to capture what a real loss this is not just for New Zealand, but for the world.

  7. Matt, my heart goes out to you and the family. It is so tough for you right now, but know for sure that Lecretia’s life of achievement, determination, love and courage will be remembered.

  8. I’m so sorry. Thinking of you all, and thanks to Lecretia for spending her last months fighting for our rights. May she rest in well-deserved peace.

  9. All empathy extended to you and your family Matt. She is now at rest and showed us all what courage is about.
    Thank you for sharing your amazing story with us all. I am sure through Lecretia others may benefit in time to come

  10. Our heartfelt sadness Matt and family. We will always remember her beautiful smile and shared love for food. She fought an incredible fight and set an example for us all. xxxx

  11. Matt, I’m so sad for your loss. My heartfelt sympathies to you and the family. Thanks for sharing with us your stories. Lucretia will be remembered fondly.

  12. Dear Matt and family, I am saddened to hear of Lecretias passing. I hope it was peaceful, I have been following your journey and you all have been in my thoughts. I like many others have not met Lecretia or yourself but my heart goes out to you at this sad time. Kind regards Dana Patterson

  13. Hang in there Matt, am with the team at XeroCon and we’re all thinking of you and send out love. Not right. So sorry to hear the news.

  14. I’m so sad to read this. Thank you for allowing us to be part of this and sharing Lecretia’s story. Peace and love to you both.

  15. Kia ora Matt much condolences to you and the family. A wonderful tribute to Lecretia by Sir Geoff Palmer. An angel of God and I salute her

    Rev. Hone Te Rire

  16. What a beautiful tribute for an awesome lady. Our thoughts are with you and your families in this difficult but as you know she fought till the end so she could peacefully rest. Arohamai Matt and Kia Kaha(be strong).

  17. Dear Matt family and friends.Thank you for sharing Lecretia with us and letting us know what an amazing, inspiring woman she is (there are no suitable adjectives to explain a woman with such a powerful inner strength as Lecretia) I know this will be a hard time for you all and I am one of thousands sending you love to help you get through this terrible pain. Lecretia touched my heart and no matter what happens today the conversation about life and death is truly open and we can thank Lecretia for that.

  18. When you know of someone personally a human story like this takes on an even more emotional element. It wasn’t till this morning that I put two and two together and worked out I knew Lecretia from years playing soccer with her brother Jeremy. Suddenly her tale was so much closer to home. To the Seale family, all the thoughts of the Dance family are with you right now. I know you are a close unit. You have done an amazing job to raise this issue across the country too. Love to you all Michael Dance

  19. My family and I will always hold beautiful memories or Lecretia. We knew her as a young teenager so gifted and so unassuming.
    Our thoughts are all with you and her family Matt.
    RIP Lecretia. Xox 🌹💝🌹

  20. Matt, so sad to hear of Lecretia passing away this morning. What an incredible woman. And what an incredible husband and support network she had. Thinking of you and your family during this time. Trudy x

  21. My sincere condolences to you Matt and your family I never had the opportunity to meet Lecretia but by all accounts what a courageous brave and beautiful lady she was, hopefully she has awakened our eyes up to the fact that the law needs to change, Kia kaha

  22. Dear Matt and all lecretias family!!! My deepest sympathies. She touched everyone’s hearts. Such sad news !!

  23. Matt and family,
    There are no words to describe the loss of such a talented, beautiful and inspiring woman as Lecretia was. There is no doubt she will leave a lasting legacy; it is just the unfairness of having such an amazing life cut short that is so inutterably hard to fathom. What an incredible joy and privilege to have shared her life – and how incredibly sad it should have been for so short a time.
    Our thoughts are very much with you.

    • We are deeply saddened at your and the Seales family great loss. My friend Laura who has had brain cancer in remission, followed Lecreatia’s story with interest and we were both shocked at the sudden passing of such a brave,talented and beautiful human being. We hope that her brave fight will be rewarded by having her wish of voluntary euthanasia recognised by the law. Kia kaha and much aroha to you.

  24. Thinking of you all ‘family’ at this sad time…. oh words have failed me, I am so sorry to hear…..

  25. May strength be your friend at this sad time. Matt and all the family, your an inspiration and role model to the whole of the world.
    When the going gets tough, strong loving family’s get through together.

  26. Hugely sorry for your loss Matt. Lecretia was clearly an incredible person. Thank you for sharing this most difficult journey – her courage and determination and your constant support remains an inspiration to us all. Our thoughts are with you and Lecretia’s family. Ali & Anna

  27. What a stoic woman whose courage as she battled was a lesson to us all.

    I am so, so sorry to hear of Lecretia’s passing. To you all who loved, cared for and supported her; my deepest sympathy.

    The lump in my throat speaks nothing of the pain and sorrow you will be feeling, but volumes of the way she touched the nation with her determination and fight.

    XOX

  28. Having followed Lecretias journey I have been overwhelmed by her tenacity..her passion and her all around ‘goodness’..and the love which she has been surrounded with has been ever evident…she was an inspirational woman and the world is a little bit smaller with her passing..but the stars will be brighter..One can only hope that the ruling to be announced this afternoon will be the right one..and Lecretias Law will be her legacy to her country ..Love and respect to all..Fly high now Beautiful lady ..you have your wings <3

  29. Dear Matt, Shirley & Larry, I was only 4-5 when Lecretia was born. I remember seeing her at the soccer grounds when we watched my brother Gary play in the same team as Larry.
    Our families have known each other a long time and although close associations were lost I was extremely saddened to find out Lecretia was so ill. I was equally impressed to find out what a fantastic woman she grew up to become.
    I hope her passing makes a difference to others in similar situations, a ruling is made in favor of assisted “suicide” and they call it “Lecretias Law”.
    My thoughts are with you all.
    Teena Cooke.

  30. To Matt and the Seales family Tga. My sincere condolences to you all. So sad to hear of Lecrectias passing, although I didn’t know her what an inspirational, strong, women. No more pain or suffering. Thankyou for sharing her and your story with us all. She will not be forgotten.
    Regards Kriss

  31. Such a brave woman! She lived they way we all should, fighting for what she believed was right. Rest in peace now Lecretia, your suffering is now over x

  32. Matt my dear soul and spirit friend. Words cannot begin to describe the depth of how I only wish there was something, some small expression I could make to assuage your grief or the reach into the depths of what you must feel and extend a hand or a hug.

    I hope you know how amazing and loved you both are – and ALWAYS will be in any PLACE and in any TIME.

  33. Lucretia, thankyou for bringing your situation so public and may your fight go on. My beautiful wife is 4 years down the same track and we cherish our time together. We didn’t know you or your tower of strength husband but you will be in our hearts. Go well.

  34. My thoughts are with you – what a beautiful talented clever and inspiring human being. There are no words to describe the world you will be waking up to this morning. You are in our thoughts as you navigate the coming days and months. Xx mel Stuart

  35. So sorry to hear about Lecretia’s passing. Everything I’ve heard about her says that she was a beautiful, strong and inspiring woman. The whole of New Zealand is thinking of you and your family. Xx

  36. Truly a remarkable and gutsy woman, rest in peace young lady, my condolences goes out to you Matt and Lecrectias family, memories are your greatest assets.

  37. Dear Matt

    I cannot thank you enough for sharing your journey in this blog, the honesty and compassion that you have shown has reminded me of what it means to be a humanitarian
    I cannot imagine how bereft you are feeling today but I am sending kind thoughts your way

  38. Thank you Lecretia, for being there. You will always be there in our hearts. RIP. Aroha to those who staying behind a little longer. xx Sharron

  39. What incredible words for an incredible woman. please know that Lecretia has touched so many lives in the best way possible. My deepest condolences from our family to yours xxx

  40. Matt I’m sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. I’ll light a candle for Lecretia tomorrow, may she rest in peace.

  41. A beautiful brave woman now sleeping peacefully. Much love to Matt and all of Lecretia’s family. xxx Trish

  42. I don’t know why but I never believed this day would come.
    Matt, thank you for putting so much time into sharing yours and Lecretia’s journey with us all. I’ve never felt disconnected from Lecretia even though I left wellington 10 years ago.
    My heart goes out to you and Lecretia’s family. And I will try to take comfort in the knowledge that she can now rest well.
    Sending you love and strength through my tears this morning.

  43. Dear Matt
    No words can express nor take away any of the pain you and your friends and family will be feeling..
    take it slowly..
    warm cuddles ..
    Carol

  44. Matt – what a beautiful tribute that conveys Lecretia’s grace, compassion, integrity and brilliance. Thank you for sharing the journey you had together and inspiring us to be our best selves. Wishing I could be there for you. Deepest condolences and love,
    xo Anita

  45. My deepest love and compassion go out to you all. I pray that God will comfort you all while you grieve the loss this amazing Lady. I am sure that you all know that she is in a better place and will see her again one day. I am so impressed what a loving and supportive family you are! My deepest love to you all.

  46. Condolences to all Lecretias family and friends. Such a big loss to you all. We wish you all the love and support you will need to get you through this sad time, big hugs to you all, stay strong…..even when it hurts.

  47. So saddened to wake to the new of Lecretias passing. She captured the country’s hearts & got us talking about life & death & the hard decisions that need to be made. I pray for a good outcome this afternoon but for now sending condolences to Matt & family & thank you for sharing your journey.

  48. To Matt: We all got to know the beautiful Lecretia through her courageous battle to give others the right to die with dignity and without suffering. Her campaign has given others hope that one day they will have that option, sooner rather than later. Across the country, thousands of us mourn with you in your loss.

  49. Awe inspiring, life affirming and a privilege to have known of your journeys. With one journey now ended, your own begins a new chapter. All thoughts and prayers to you and yours, and much gratitude for allowing ‘us’ to know a little of your courageous and gifted wife.

  50. Although I didn’t know Lecretia peronally I salute a courageous woman who even when so ill was prepared to use the time left to her to advocate for changes that will benefit many others. Loving thoughts to her family at this incredibly sad time. Be assured her legacy will live on.

  51. Very sad to hear about Lecretia. Our thoughts especially go to Larry and Shirley and family.

  52. Deepest sympathies to you…but im sure lecretia couldnt of asked for a better passing, to go naturally and i hope peacefully….as a carer i was right behind her….with her fight for the right to choose…and that was the essence of it..the right to have the choice…..not nessecery to act on it, but the choice ,…lecretia has in her wisdom left the world with the question,forever in peoples minds…..is it our right to be able to choose,when the pain of a terminable illness becomes unbearable ,to end the suffering in diginty…once again deepest sympathies for your loss…her memory will live on.

  53. Thinking of u all at this sad time. What a fighter, an inspirational woman Lecretia was. Although I have never met her, I have followed her final journey and admire her courage and strength to fight for something that would give terminally ill people dignity. I hope Lecretia’s choice is still carried on. RIP Lecretia.

  54. rip to a beautiful and amazing soul. you will be remembered for your fighting spirit. love and respect to your family at this time.xox

  55. I have followed Lecretias story and wish to say thank you for sharing a very personal story to shine the light for others to follow. She has found peace and will warm your heart forever.

  56. Heaven has a beautiful angel. We extend all our love to you and your family. Lecretia showed us all to the end what a courageous, brave, talented beautiful lady she was. Her star will now shine on you Matt. xxx Cheryle

  57. My thoughts are with Lucretia, Matt, family and friends at this time. What a brave and beautiful woman she was. I sincerely hope this law reformation is successful, what a fantastic tribute to her life this would be.

  58. Oh Matt, I am so sad hearing the news this morning and know your pain would be so much worse. I can only hope that you will find comfort in having known such an amazing woman to share your life with. We have all been inspired by her courage. May love and peace surround you and Lucretia’s family…you are not alone.

  59. What a wonderful tribute from Sir Geoffrey Palmer….no more than Lecretia deserves of course.
    My heartfelt sympathy goes to Matt and the rest of Lecretia’s Family.
    It is so gratifying to know that Lecretia did not suffer when she died.
    As someone who lost their Son tragically, I well know the passage of grief, and I wish you all comfort and love in your journey. Judy Meek.

  60. Arohanui to you all at this time of sadness and yet relief. Thank you Lecretia and Matt for allowing us to share in this journey – your strength has made us stronger and wiser.

  61. New Zealand weeps with you Matt. Wishing you time and space to rest your broad shoulders and breathe and remember. Lecretias fight will not lose momentum and will go on, rest assured of that.

  62. So much love coming to you Matt, and all the family at this time. Words cannot express. As Lecretia fought the good fight well – so have you. Just as Lecretia has rest now – wishing the same for you.

  63. A earth angel got her golden wings, what a amazing journey, amazing women. Today we lost a pioneer, thank you for bringing change, much love and blessings to your family. Leonie ♡

  64. I have no words just tears from my soul. May Lecretia be happy and free and in wait for her loved ones when their turn to leave this comes. Hugs to all friends and family. Only goodness can come from this. The greatest sacrifice so others may not have to suffer.

  65. Dear Matt – I have been incredibly touched by Lucretia and what she fought for and so saddened by this news. Sir Geoffrey Palmer’s tribute says so much. My heart goes out to you and and yours. Aroha.

  66. What a difference you have made Lecretia! You are a true inspiration and a strong person who made the most of every opportunity. I never met you but may you inspire each person to seize the now, the day and take each moment with their family as a true blessing.

  67. Thank you for your family’s courage in sharing Lecretia’s story and for helping her to fight for the right to die with dignity… something that should be available to all of us. Arohanui x

  68. To Matt and family and friends, our deepest sympathy on the loss of your beautiful Lecretia. Lecretia was an amazing woman, strong, determined and we hope Lucretia’s Law is reformed. Thank you for sharing her story with all of us.Our love and thoughts are with you all. Rest in peace Lucretia.

  69. I have tears for a lady I did not know but I wish I had met, what an amazing lady with a husband that has lost his soul mate. You are both such special people and have endured a very hard time. You have both made a difference!

  70. I’m so sad this morning for a young woman I never met but especially for her family. I have felt I got to know you all through my daughter, Rachel. My heart goes out to you as you prepare to say your final farewells to a remarkable young woman.

  71. To Matt and family, deepest sympathy on the passing of Lecretia. She is a truly amazing, determined and much loved woman. RIP Lecretia – Heaven has another beautiful angel. Our thoughts and love are with you all.

  72. Such a true inspiration,life can be very unfair.

    RIP Lecretia

    Much love to her family and friends at this sad time.

    ♡♡♡

  73. I can understand that you are lost for words, your world has just changed, ‘again’ from this day on wards. I would like to say a big, “thank you” to you both. I wish there was something that I could do or say to take you and your family’s pain away, but I know this is a journery that you all will go through in your own way. Letting you know that you are not alone. xxxxx

  74. Rest peacefully Lecretia, thank you so much for the work you have done. Hugs and prayers for the family left behind. Your family and country is proud of you and the strength you had to fight til the end. Thanks again for your inspiration to fight til the end. xo

  75. Dear Matt and family, so sorry to hear this morning that Lecretia has passed away. Thank you so much Lecretia for your fight with the court, lets hope this keeps the line open for all the other Lecretia’s out there that want to have a choice about there life. Thank you Matt for sharing a very private part of your lives with us all. God Bless

  76. What a wonderful tribute from Sir Geoffrey Palmer. Like him we salute Lecretia for the wonderful caring soul she was. Fly free darling angel. Our thoughts are with you Matt and family at this sad time. May the love and memories of Lecretia sustain you. Kia Kaha and much Aroha. xx

  77. Thinking of you and your family Matt. I’m sorry I never got to meet Lecretia but am so happy to know that you will carry her with you and I hope to be regaled with stories of her incredibleness sooner rather than later. Sending you and yours all the love I can.

  78. My deepest condolences and thoughts are with you and the family Matt. Lecretia’s legacy will be, amongst all the other things she achieved in her life, to provoke Parliament into action over this matter of law and compassion. Her efforts will bear fruit. Thank you all.

  79. What an amazing women so much courage someone i will always admire, I hope today at 3pm she gets a chance to set in gold what terminally ill people have wanted for so long, that is choice to live or be at peace from pain, I am sorry for your loss jst remember those we love never go away they are always near never far, they walk beside us everyday❤️

  80. Words never feel like enough at a time like this – but they are all I have. Matt, you are an incredible man and I wish with all of my heart that you are able to find peace soon…and that the memories you have of your life with Lecretia bring you warm, knowing smiles of joy to replace the sad tears of your loss…

    And to Lecretia – a race well run by an extraordinary human being – the world is blessed for having had you in it, and much sadder to now not have you…rest in peace, for you so deserve this…
    Together with all of NZ…my thoughts are with you both…love, Bev

  81. Dear Matt, family, friends, and all those who loved and cared for Lecretia. I have only just heard the sad news. My heart breaks with you and for you. What a mighty hole you will all have to fill.

    Lecretia was a brave, gutsy, stunningly beautiful, woman. They don’t make ’em like that very often. NZ weeps with you all xoxox

    RIP Lecretia. Gone far too soon.

  82. Lucretia sounded like an amazing woman in everyway, so try and remember those wonderful times shared together when you have a moment. My thoughts are with you and your family. RIP Lucretia

  83. RIP beautiful girl your pain has now gone. Your fight will go on for Dying with Dignity and it one day will be won. Prayers and thoughts to your loved ones.

  84. What a wonderful tribute for Lecretia. You will treasure those words for a long time. NZ thoughts and prayers will be with you and your extended families. There is not a heart this story has not tugged with.

  85. I wish you a peaceful time to grieve. Grief is the price we pay for love, and by all accounts you and she were very close. In the days and weeks to come, you will find many who agree with Lecretia’s stance, and a few who vociferously don’t, and may resort to ad-hominems to express their views. Try to ignore them, they are blinded by their conditioning, and spouting what they’ve been told to think.
    Lecretia’s legacy looks to be happening already, with increasing discussion of legalities of those difficult choices. May it continue, to honour her and those who have walked this path before her.

  86. Dear Matt, family and friends,
    Lecretia has inspired such admiration and respect in her life and in this recent fight for her choice. Her public spirit is a shining example. I’m so sorry for your loss.
    with love,
    Emily

  87. My thoughts go out to all of Lucretia’s family and friends. I know she is no longer suffering and you all know this but I also know the loss is painful.

    I also want to say how much I have admired Lucretia in her fight for the right to die in her own way. I can only hope that her struggle will bring the change necessary to allow others to have the ability to make their own choices.

    R.I.P. Lucretia

  88. RIP Lecretia. To all your friends & family my heart goes out to you. I never met this wonderful woman but have followed her on fb & I thank all for allowing us to do that. I also applaud your fight. I watched my mum die in terrible pain because there is no law allowing doctors to help terminally ill people. I hope for all that have faught for this law to be changed it will happen one day.

  89. May you be surrounded by love, I can’t even think of the right words. Sincere sympathy to a courageous family. Bless.

  90. We are so sorry to hear of Lecretia’s passing you, were both inspirational people and her strength and legacy will continue on.

  91. Dear Matt and Lecretia’s and your family and friends, I am thinking of you all at this time. What courage you and Lecretia have shown us. Kia Kahu. Janice

  92. Matt,

    We are so sorry to hear of Lecretia’s passing. You were so lucky to have found each other. Our thoughts are with you.

    Darryl & Sarah

  93. So so sorry. I had hoped Lecretia would know her result before she was taken. This is a cause close to my heart and I send my love and respect to all her loved ones. I thank Lecretia for her compassion and heart. Kay

  94. My deepest sympathy to you and the rest of the family. From all that has been said, Lecretia was a very special lady and I admire how she turned her illness into something that will benefit others. I can’t begin to imagine how you feel but my thoughts are will you. Go well Lecretia

  95. So sad and sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful Lecretia. Blessings to you and your whanau and also to her whanau. Such a lovely tribute to her from a great man who appreciated the work she did and the beautiful person that she was. May she rest in loving peace for eternity ……..

  96. Deepest sympathy to you and your family. My heart breaks for you and your family.
    Kai kaha at this sad time.

  97. Matt, my thoughts are with you and your family from Hong Kong. I already miss all the breakfasts that I had with Lecretia at Louis Sergeant and can’t believe we won’t be sitting there again at our corner table by the couches. What a woman. And what an amazing privilege to be her friend. Tania xx

  98. Such sad news. What an incredible woman by all accounts, greatly loved by a strong family and friends. That we should all be so lucky to have such strength and support in our last days. May she rest in peace.

  99. God bless this beautiful woman. I never met her but I grew up in TGA and I remember as a teenager I had several high school buddies who had big crushes on this beautiful girl with the funny sounding name. And so when I heard Lecretia’s name in the news, I followed her story with great interest.
    Rest easy beautiful lady. I never knew you but your legacy will reach far and wide.
    Kia Kaha Matt. xo

  100. Dear Matt – my heartfelt thoughts are with you at this incredibly sad time. You have both been so incredibly brave.
    Lecretia was clearly a talented, highly intelligent and courageous person -she will not only be a huge loss to you Matt but also to this world we live in.

  101. My thoughts are with you Matt and family. She was love by you and adored by many for her strength and determination. May she pave the way forward for her fellow New Zealanders. It will not have been in vain but she will not forgotten for her service to our country. Karin

  102. Dear Matt. Thinking of you and Lecretias family during this sad time. May Lecretias fight and determination remain an inspiration for many. Lots of love Sarah, Damian, Zachary, and Samantha. Xx

  103. Dear Matt, words cannot express my deep sympathy for you and Lecretia’s family. A brave courageous woman now at rest. To her knight in shining armour sharing her journey with us, I salute you. X

  104. I am saddened to hear of the passing of this remarkable young woman . My heart goes out to you Matt and to her family and close friends. Lecretia came into our world through her story and her bid to be able to control her life’s end . It is hoped this battle will be taken up by others and the law reformed to allow all terminally ill the dignity of choice .It would be a fitting tribute to Lecretia

  105. I never met this brave Lady but she has left an indelible mark on my heart because of what she was trying to achieve. Deepest sympathy to her family and friends. Particularly to her husband. Lost my hubby to cancer. Diagnosed at 43 and passed away at 49.

  106. Hi matt I have been following your wife story she was a beautiful and smart woman my thoughts to you and both families and your cat

  107. Dear Matt and all Lucretia’s family. What an inspiration for us all. My sincere condolences to you all.
    Pat.

  108. What an inspirational woman she was. Her stand to give herself and possibly others that basic human right to choose for ourselves is outstanding. It is something I have debated many times in my life. She will never be forgotten. Love to you and your families at this very difficult time.

  109. Larry and Shirley
    So so sorry for your loss of your precious Daughter, our thoughts are with you at this time.

    Brian and Paula Decke

  110. I don’t know you, but wow have the pair of you touched me and my life. I am grateful for her courage, and in awe of your love, Matt. You both make the world a better place. Take care of yourself, you have done an amazing job.

  111. What a truly amazing couple you have been Matt. I cannot imagine what you have been through. You have both been inspirational to myself and countless others. Just incredible people. I will be thinking of you.
    All my love, Gareth

  112. Lecretia, “When thou sigh’st, thou sigh’st not wind, but sigh’st my soul away.
    When thou weep’st, unkindly kind, my life blood doth decay.” (John Donne)

  113. So sad to hear this news – rest in peace Lecretia.
    Matt, I just want you to know that your amazing wife’s brave struggle and the support you have given her, including this blog, provide a profound legacy. My partner and I are going through a difficult patch and restless I woke in the very early hours of the morning and found myself here on this blog for the first time and read it all. I guess I was drawn in by the life-affirming love and determination so apparent in Lecretia’s and your story and the scale of the challenge helped put things in perspective. Then as dawn broke I opened Stuff and was stunned to read the breaking story of Lecretia’s passing.
    I’m not much of one for signs or fate but I do want you to hopefully find some comfort in these dark hours to know that Lecretia’s care, compassion and determination live on in her legacy – even for those of us who have never had the great fortune to know her.
    I wish you and Lecretia’s family and friends comfort and strength.

  114. I am humbled by her intelligence and strength. I wish I could take up the battle on her behalf as I so agree with her standpoint. May the universe help you heal your heart.

  115. It’s so terribly sad Lecretia’s life was shortened by such an awful illness. I’ll always remember Lecretia as the lovely, cheerful, friendly young girl I knew through our years together at Tauranga Girls’ College. It was clear then that Lecretia would go far and from reading of her accomplishments in her adult life she certainly did. Thinking of Lecretia’s loved ones at this most difficult time.

  116. Matt & family, Thank you all for sharing Lucretia with us, her private life became public, I am proud of you all especially Lucretia, this must of been so hard for you and her, I did not know Lucretia, or any one in your family, but I support Lucretia’s views and wishes, I think all New Zealanders are thinking of you all tonight x

  117. It’s a shock to hear! Matt you took care of such an amazing lady! Her story and her life has touched so many people! She is someone we won’t forget!!

  118. She was a very brave woman as are all those, family, friends, and legal team who fought with her all the way through her heartbreaking illness. You all deserve the respect of our nation. You certainly have mine.

  119. Dear Matt, I can’t begin to imagine how you must have felt on Tuesday having to give Lecretia the bad news – never mind how you must feel now.
    I hope the work Lecretia started is incredibly important and must continue. I know some people regard it as opening a can of worms but it is a can which needed opening. The judge has thrown down the gauntlet to parliament and parliament should not ignore it.
    It would have been much better if the Euthenasia Free NZ people had listened to what Lecretia had said. They shouldn’t have mentioned her not having a long, painful death she had feared. She clearly feared a death aftera period of total dependency and a loss of speech etc which is what has happened. Palliative care can control a great deal of pain but sufficient analgesia can result in an induced coma – just the sort of thing that Lecretia did not want.
    When assisted death becomes legal, which it should, I as a nurse would help people in cases like Lecretia’s.

  120. My hopes were for Lecretia to win her court case. I was completely blown away by her inner strength and her almighty courage. She spoke with the passion of her convictions. My sincerest condolences to Lecretia’s family at this very sad time.

  121. Thinking of your family at this sad time. I believe in what Lecretia was fight for and I believe we need to keep discussing this issue.

  122. The world is a better place with having peopke like Lecretia in it. My condolences to you, Matt and your family. What incredible lucky people you are to have had Lecretia in your lives. I necef had the fortune to meet her. Only seen and admired her on TV. Rest in peace

  123. Dear Matt,
    Sending you and your family much love,
    From Me (Jo) and my family, x
    Chandler ‘s from Tauranga

  124. Dearest Matt and whanau.
    I am another kiwi unknown to yourself and your stunningly beautiful Lecretia.i dont know much about law/politics or the health system, but my knowledge has increased a little following your fight for Lecretias choice.im just a farm worker so my words arnt fancy.I have shed a few tears for you guys lately but today no tears…Lecretia is at peace now…no more battling.What a power house your lovely Lecretia was and how lucky you both were to have such good mates in each other.
    I wish you and your whanau well Matt and hope you guys get to to rest a little now youselves.
    Kia Kaha
    Much respect
    Susan Ruddell

  125. Dear Matt and family,I am so sorry to hear of Lecretia’s passing,i didn’t know her but have been following your story,no words can describe how you must be feeling,i felt after reading your story I got to know her a little.
    What an amazing beautiful woman she was,you both sound like you shared an amazing life together.
    This is a time to be gotten through Matt,go slow and know that your memories will always be present,
    Much love to you and your family.
    You rest quietly Lecretia,

  126. I haven’t felt this sad or frustrated, since my friend Brian died in my arms of a brain tumour, in terrible pain, in a Hospice. I am a Nurse, but was there as a friend only, and could see from his eyes that he was in appalling pain. I didn’t understand why, until I cuddled him, and realised the bandages covering the needle which was meant to be delivering his essential pain relief were utterly soaked. The needle had come loose, and the fluid was simply seeping into the bandages. Too late…..he died suddenly in absolute agony, and unless anyone out there has experienced excruciating physical pain, or had someone they adore die in front of their eyes in clear agony, do not consider yourself an appropriate person to comment on this issue. The ‘ideal’ is effective pain relief. That this doesn’t always occur is the height of degradation, and I salute this amazing woman for being so utterly selfless, using her last days and minutes to fight as an advocate for those in her position. This issue must be re-visited. My heart goes out to this lady’s husband and all her family and friends. Kia kaha. We will never forget what she tried to do……

  127. Matt. No on can say anything to dull your pain, nor should they, but I hope you can feel the love from people around the world who are thinking of Lecretia, yourself, and your family at this time. You are a husband and wife team with a beautiful legacy which has inspired millions – it will continue to do so.

    You have my deepest, and most heartfelt sympathies, bundled together with a hug I wish I could give you in person. Stay strong, keep fighting the good fight.

    Love Craig

  128. I salute you Lecretia and much aroha to your family. You are an inspiration and I support the right to have this choice.

  129. I was very sad to wake and hear the news that Lecretia had passed away over night. I didn’t know either of you but have been following the posts the last few days and praying for you all. My thoughts are with you at this very sad time.

  130. What a team. Nothing but impressed by your joint courage, vulnerability, intelligence and bond. An incredibily tough and unfair journey that has been shared so intimately with us all. Shirley and Larry, you had a brilliant daughter and have a very special son in law. Our thoughts continue to be with you.

  131. Thinking of you and the family at this most difficult time,,it is all up to us to continue the legacy

  132. I don’t know what to say, what an amazing and determined lady. Despite her illness she continued working. I just saw her programme a few weeks ago and can’t believe she is gone. Her husband is gem, you stood by your wife till her last day. You are rare in today’s society, most would have walked off.. This is true love. Rest in Peace Lecretia

  133. I felt devastated when I read the news, and so soon after I joined! Your story touched me so much. My sincere sympathies to those who knew and loved her. And my thanks for stirring me on to a worthy cause. The world needs more like both of you, your courage is awesome and a great inspiration. Words don’t seem adequate, but some beautiful ones have been written.
    With love, sorrow and hope, Judith

  134. Dear Matt
    We are thinking of you and Lecretia’s family at this time of unbearable loss. You have both been an inspiration to us all during your harrowing journey together. Lecretia will never be forgotten as we continue her fight for the right to euthanasia in circumstances such as hers.
    Take care of yourself Matt. You’ll need some of your own time now.
    We send our love to you and Lecretia’s parents and siblings.
    Jenny and David

    • Thank you Lecretia, Matt, and fellow supporters. I am freshly inspired through following Lecretia’s story and reading all your potent tributes. Wow… never, ever, underestimate the power of what one person can do! Lecretia, we will all strive to continue your work and we WILL achieve the right to choose assisted death.
      May all beings be happy,
      may all beings be peaceful,
      may all beings be free from suffering.

  135. Dear Matt
    I have two friends very moved by you and Lecretia, your story and your battle, her beauty and bravery, not only bearing her illness but her tenacity in taking her case to the high court despite being so ill. Neither has access to a computer so asked me to pass on their messages.
    From Dianne: Lecretia was so strong to go public with her kaupapa – and
    arohanui to her whanau me nga hoa

    The second is a beautiful message our friend sent to us when our son in law died last year.
    She’d like me to send it to you.
    “Kia hora te marino
    Kia whakapapa pounamu te moana
    Kia tere te karohirohi
    I mua i to huarahi”
    Kia Kaha, Matt. Our thoughts are with you and your saddness.

    “May peace be widespread
    May the sea glisten like greenstone
    May the shimmer of light guide you on your way”

  136. Wondering how you are doing, Matt. She sure hasn’t gone away in the minds of many, and neither have you.