Comments on: Afterwards /afterwards/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=afterwards Lecretia Seales believed ill people enduring intolerable suffering with no hope of recovery should have the choice to request assistance to end their lives. Mon, 21 Feb 2022 22:45:32 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.9 By: Kate Milford /afterwards/#comment-53208 Sat, 06 Apr 2019 10:12:18 +0000 /?p=419#comment-53208 In reply to Sue Boyde.

How is that working for you Sue?

]]> By: Victoria /afterwards/#comment-2122 Mon, 06 Jul 2015 10:10:48 +0000 /?p=419#comment-2122 There is no right way to be or feel when you loose someone you loved/love deeply. Just flow with the process and try not to sit on the outside looking in and judging yourself. I think what you and Lecretia have done is monumental, it’s started a conversation that desperately had to begin. I can’t imagine how you must feel now but I suspect a need to find yourself sits right alongside the feeling that you have lost a vital bit of that self. Be kind to yourself.

]]> By: Colin /afterwards/#comment-2121 Mon, 06 Jul 2015 09:00:23 +0000 /?p=419#comment-2121 Beautifully written and totally understandable. All too often I speak with families who have relatives in a situation comparable with Lecretia’s but I cannot imagine what it must be like to be in that position.
There is a poem called So Many Different Lengths of Time by Brian Patten. I read this at a friends funeral and it was read at my dad’s. It is well worth looking it up on Google. To me it really explains how people will be remembered.
You have the best excuse in the world to be selfish at present Matt. If you feel like having time alone you should do so – don’t feel obliged to have visitors you haven’t invited.
Best wishes
Colin

]]> By: Jenny /afterwards/#comment-2114 Mon, 06 Jul 2015 02:52:02 +0000 /?p=419#comment-2114 Jenny

Matt, you are such an inspiration to so many and so many of us are thinking of you and feeling your grief. We all wish we could help but this is your own journey, in your own way. Whatever you do, however you do it, there is no right or wrong way. Just know we do care.
Not a day goes by when I don’t think about Lecretia and her amazing bravery and the love you had for each other.
Someone said”Grief is the price we pay for love” and so true. The greater the love, the greater the grief.
People all over the world will be thinking of you and Lecretia with enormous admiration. As New Zealanders we must continue to support the work Lecretia has begun.
Kia Kaha, Matt
Arohanui,
Jenny and Davidxx

]]> By: Sandra Turner /afterwards/#comment-1948 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 11:22:46 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1948 So tough. Though a shared experience grief is so isolating and individual. Friends family will listen and understand even when you dont.

]]> By: Fiona Lousich /afterwards/#comment-1947 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 10:57:52 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1947 Death is a hard thing for everyone.You have had to deal with it in the public eye which is never easy.Give yourself time to grieve in your own way.A discussion has been started making us all take a long hard look at things.This is a good thing. No one can lessen the pain you feel. Keep the good memories alive in you and stand strong you need to see what she started through to the end. Make every day count.One day at a time.

]]> By: Robyn /afterwards/#comment-1937 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 04:52:31 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1937 Honest and compassionate. My heart goes out to you. Each individual will process grief in their own unique way and at their own pace. There is no defined “right” or “wrong” way only that which each of us must do in the way which is best for us at any given moment as we struggle to come to terms with our loss and move on to the next step of our memory stairway. Stay strong and true to yourself Matt and let others deal with what they are thinking, feeling, experiencing. You can each support the other without compromising your own space. I, even after 9yrs, still have sudden moments of intense grief for the loss of my partner, though they are much easier to contend with and do not last as long. It is so important to take time for yourself as and when you feel it to be right. Best wishes on your journey I feel sure you will always have the wonderful memories to ease your path.

]]> By: Caroline Mokaraka /afterwards/#comment-1930 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 22:42:26 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1930 Ae.. Kia kaha, be strong. It will never pass.. Its what defines us. The memories, the fun, joy, the sadness. It is the deepest hurt emotionally to lose a loved one. I wish on you the very best in life, and you will get thru this pain.. Her memory will help you get through. 🙂

]]> By: Julie Greer /afterwards/#comment-1928 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 21:50:21 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1928 Weeping is my way of healing from losing my young bro. It’s hard to weep because my parents didn’t allow the expression of grief. Reading your writing about Lecretia, let my head cry. Thanks.

]]> By: Mirrors /afterwards/#comment-1926 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 21:00:03 +0000 /?p=419#comment-1926 Thank you for sharing Matt. I really relate to what you have written. Everybody else goes back to their normal life and there you are trying to make sense of it all. The days drag on and seem meaningless. I thought I wouldn’t be able to live in the house we built together or even sleep in our bed. But how I thought I would feel before is not how I feel after. My grief was more intense watching the man I love fade away. Yet having him as a shadow of his former self was better than not having him at all. I know that I’ll be okay and one day I might be happy again. It seems like a long way off.

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